“Every time I get online, I see someone who is having a baby, getting engaged, getting married, buying a new house, falling in love, purchasing a new car, everything good is happening to them, but what about me?”
The above statement is some of the things I see repeatedly on social media and hear friends/family members talk about. Are you allowing social media to ATTACK your mind? Are you a victim of envy and comparison? If so, continue reading. If not, continue reading and perhaps you can help someone or direct them to this blog post.
WOW! They have what I want
So many times we look at people situations based on a few pictures or words and think, WOW! WOW, I want to be like them. In reality, if only you could remember that what you’re seeing or reading is a small fraction of their life and what goes on behind closed doors isn't always aired out to the public.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side
As I mentioned in one of my previous blogs, what glitters isn't always gold. That statement is so incredibly true. As a whole, we tend to judge the outer appearance rather than looking deeper into the situation. And sometimes looking deeper into other people situations isn't quite our business, but from what you see, don’t be so quick to just run with it. People have lives outside of social media, and everyone has challenging days.
If you’re having unprotected sex, there shouldn't be any surprises when a baby comes
I never realized how many people envied pregnant women until last year. Some people are pregnant, but you never know what lead them to getting pregnant. Some were unplanned, some were planned, some felt forced to have the baby due to previous abortions, some people have babies to feel loved, some to feel like they have to keep up with their friends, some battle with depression because the baby’s father isn't 100% in it like the mom, some men are married and perhaps the husband did not really want a baby or vice versa. I have never been pregnant and I don’t know what it takes to be a mother. For women and even a few men, don’t envy anyone who is pregnant or having a baby. Although something’s may appear to be all amazing and a blessing, people with babies go through some serious situations too. Don’t get me wrong, a baby is a blessing/amazing, just don’t be so quick to judge the mother (for better or worse).
Relationship Goals for what?
I often see people post about relationship goals. It’s okay to have goals in a relationship, but do you really want someone else’s goals? I often times see people post the hashtag #relationshipgoals under celebrity couple pictures and it makes me realize that some people have no idea. What do you mean by no idea Ashlee? Glad you asked! No idea as to what HELL people in the relationship have been through. We see a few pictures of smiling faces, but smiles can also be disguises of sadness that’s hidden deep within the hearts. There’s even females I know who make it their duty to give social media daily updates on how well their relationship is going. They think, “If I don’t post anything, people will think we are having relationship problems... what if people think this and that” Smh…People who brag or post about their relationship more than often usually are people who are more insecure in the relationship. Typically people with low confidence and self-esteem issues are more likely to boast about their relationships on social media. They feel like they need to have others included and give the world an insight of their relationship to mask what goes on behind closed doors. I’m NOT speaking for all relationships, but a high percentage. At the end of the day, it’s your social media page so you have the right to post and do whatever you want to do. I’m not going to go into details about any particular relationships, but just know tears, arguments, headaches, cheating, lies, disappointments, embarrassment, lonely nights, rumors, misinterpreted text messages, un-sureness, over-thinking, late nights, lack of money, missed calls, competition, drama, and hurt has been involved in many. Not saying all relationships have these, but relationships in general have been through some of the listed items above. Bottom line: 1) No relationship is perfect 2) Behind every good relationship, hard work has been put into it.
Why we need to focus on Christ and not what we see with our bare eyes
This life will present continuous challenges. When we begin to apply the word of God, life will become easier. It’s one thing to go to church, study the word of God, and think about being a Christian….. It’s another thing to have a lifestyle bearing fruit and leading others to Christ.
Stop patterning your life off people who look like they got it all together on the outside
Nobody "100%" has is altogether. Every day is an opportunity to grow. We are human and we are all subject to error. When you know better you strive to do better. Don't get distracted and allow false images to cloud your thoughts. Guard your heart and guard your mind.